Marital Arts

⛩️ Dojo of Devotion

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Lindsay Brock Coulter
August 29, 2025

Hey LF Tribe ❤️

This week I facilitated my first Relationship Reset sessions. After guiding couples through a comprehensive four-part assessment phase (and in one case, several additional weekly sessions), we came together for a focused three-hour intensive.

The goal of this work is to reset the collective nervous system of the couple—interrupting entrenched cycles of blame, distance, and negative sentiment override. By slowing down, bringing awareness to patterns, and practicing new ways of relating, couples begin to experience each other not as adversaries, but as allies again.

As part of the process, I wrote personalized narratives for each couple—reflections crafted to help them hear what their relationship most needed in order to awaken empathy, compassion, and understanding. In doing so, we aim to activate the social engagement system, creating the conditions for safety, connection, and repair.

You can read amended (in respect of confidentiality and privacy) versions of these narratives here:

In my office, I don’t allow couples to fight. They are welcome to communicate, to disagree, to express their emotions with passion, to lean into conflict, and even to step back into their negative cycles for a moment. But as soon as the stress response system takes over, it’s my role to intervene and redirect. We’re not here to avoid conflict—but to create an environment where conflict can be experienced without harm.

This is a daily practice and a discipline.

After the past years experiences working with couples, I’m finally ready to bring my vision for a new company to life: Marital Arts

This vision first came to me years ago, when I returned to my hometown after over a decade away. I noticed a new martial arts studio in my neighborhood, and in that moment, I had a flash of the future—a vision of a different kind of dojo. One where couples would train in the arts of love, relating and intimacy.

That vision has stayed with me, and today I’m excited to turn it into reality.

⛩️ Welcome to the Dojo of Devotion. I’m glad you’re here 🫶🏼

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